‘Exploitation’ is the new mantra for some women on Tinder.
By Dileep Thekkethil
The next time when you get pinged by a pretty girl via Tinder, keep in mind that not all girls out there are seeking romance and a few might have some insidious intentions.
The New York Post reported that at least a few women who join Tinder are there to exploit men, to lure them to help with chores.
Fiona Bloom, a 47-year-old women, who has been dating for the past 20 years, was reported by the newspaper saying that she signed in Tinder and started searching for someone who could help her with installing an AC.
Bloom, a publicist, told The New York Post. “I figured, why not make them useful and have them help me around the house?”
After a few minutes of swiping on her screen, she found a guy wearing overalls and holding a hammer. Though she felt no urge for the man, she messaged him saying that she needs some help in the house, making it clear that she has no intention of having a date.
The guy, who was a 40-year-old bachelor, was knocking Bloom’s door a few minutes later after she sent the message. The guy opened her window and set up her AC, not even mentioning the word “date”.
Bloom said the guy after a few days messaged her asking if he can go with her on a perfect date but she, without showing any remorse, ignored the message.
Bloom, who has used the same method to get a free ride to the Hamptons, was quoted saying, “Men are hard-wired to feel strong and be a provider. I don’t feel guilty using them for a little help.”
According to the report, Bloom is just one among many women who use Tinder and other dating apps for purposes other than dating, which some people call exploitation but experts say that’s OK, as long as women are upfront about their intentions.
Marni Kinrys, writer of LA dating blog WingGirlMethod.com, has a different opinion about the new trend. According to her, the improvised use of Tinder could get both parties closer as they could get to know each other better.
The experience of Lori using Tinder for getting help from men has been used by The New York Post to explain how such an unusual meeting can end up in a log lasting relationship. Lori met her boyfriend, Andrew, 28, in 2014 on Tinder after she posted a selfie of her desperately trying to install an AC. Seeing her post, Andrew came into her house and later into her life.
On the other hand, people who find the new trend as a veiled exploitation says it is nothing but selfishness and some compares women who engage in such activities to men who ignore women after having sex.
Experts also say that there is a danger lying within the new practice as some men might feel cheated shown the door after doing the chores. This could also mean that one might end up having the wrong guy on a particular day, which could end up in a fatality.